WHAT WE AGREE TO UPHOLD
“This is what you walk with, if you want to be here.”
Baseline, non-negotiable behavior: we treat every person with dignity, do not harm or exclude, listen before we react, honor consent in all forms, show up as equals, protect one another’s safety, and act in good faith. If someone can’t meet this, we set boundaries and take action.
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We care for each other’s dignity.
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We don’t harm or exclude — ever.
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We listen before we react.
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We honor consent in all forms.
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We are equals here.
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We protect each other’s safety.
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We act in good faith.
WHAT WE AGREE TO RESPECT
“Even if it’s not mine, I won’t step on it.”
Openness to difference: we make room for many ways of living, loving, believing, working, and pacing. You don’t have to share someone’s view to honor it—be curious, don’t push, and remember there’s no single “normal.”
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Different ways of living, loving, and believing.
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Different speeds, styles, and needs.
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Different relationships to activism and risk.
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Different pains and priorities — ask, don’t push.
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Cultural, national, and language differences — no single “normal.”
WHAT WE AGREE TO TRY TO UNDERSTAND
“You don’t have to agree — but try to see where it comes from.”
Humble practice, not perfection: some won’t trust this right away, and that’s valid. Imagination helps change happen; shame keeps people away; real change is often slow and relational. We resist purity tests and remember every person carries a story worth hearing.
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Why some don’t trust this right away.
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The power of imagination in change.
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How shame keeps people away — we remove it.
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Real change is slow, relational, often quiet.
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The danger of purity — choose care over perfection.
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Every Heart has a story worth hearing.